Do you have Healthy Boundaries? A Life Coaching Exercise within the Shamanic Life Coach Certification Course

Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships. A person who always keeps others at a distance (whether emotionally, physically, or otherwise) is said to have rigid boundaries. Alternatively, someone who tends to get too involved with others has poor boundaries. Also keep in mind that having poor boundaries is also a form of giving your power away.

Healthy Boundaries:

  • Values own opinions.
  • Doesn’t compromise values for others.
  • Shares personal information in an appropriate way (does not over or under share).
  • Knows personal wants and needs, and can communicate them.
  • Accepting when others say “no” to them.

Poor Boundaries:

  • Overshares personal information.
  • Difficulty saying “no” to the requests of others.
  • Over involved with other’s problems.
  • Dependent on the opinions of others.
  • Accepting of abuse or disrespect.
  • Fears rejection if they do not comply with others.

Rigid Boundaries:

  • Avoids intimacy and close relationships.
  • Unlikely to ask for help.
  • Has few close relationships.
  • Very protective of personal information.
  • May seem detached, even with romantic partners.
  • Keeps others at a distance to avoid the possibility of rejection.

Most people have a mix of different boundary types. For example, someone could have healthy boundaries at work, poor boundaries in romantic relationships, and a mix of all three types with their family. The appropriateness of boundaries depends on the setting. What’s appropriate to say when you’re out with friends might not be appropriate when you’re at work. Some cultures have very different expectations when it comes to boundaries. For example, in some cultures it’s considered wildly inappropriate to express emotions publicly. In other cultures, emotional expression is encouraged.

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin Exercise: Ask yourself the following questions…

Think about a person with whom you struggle to set healthy boundaries. This could mean that your boundaries are too rigid (you keep your distance), too poor (you open up too much), or there’s some other problem that isn’t so easily labeled. Who do you struggle to set healthy boundaries with?

Boundary Categories: What categories would you choose to describe your relationship with this person you listed above?

  • Physical Boundaries
  • Intellectual Boundaries
  • Emotional Boundaries
  • Sexual Boundaries
  • Material Boundaries
  • Time Boundaries

Take a moment to imagine what it will be like when you begin to establish healthy boundaries with this person.

  1. What are some specific actions you can take to improve your boundaries with this person?
  2. How do you think they will respond to these changes?
  3. How do you think your life will be different once you’ve established healthy boundaries with this person?

Focus: What was the most significant part about this session?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take? Write it down.

Horse Animal Message

Saw a few wild horses on my way to sedona today to do a Full Moon ceremony. More confirmation on my path…

Horse Message: It’s time to free yourself from physical and emotional constricting aspects of your life. This situation requires strong warrior energy, balance, sensitivity, patience and compassion.

Amazing Medicine Soup Recipe 

I wanted to share my most favorite recipe! I call it medicine soup and it tastes delicious! Only five ingredients:

  • Chicken stock 
  • Three sweet potato or yams
  • Two bulbs of garlic
  • 1 large yellow onion
  • Fresh basil

First I brown the garlic and onion in some butter or ghee. Then I pour in the chicken stock and the cubed yams.

Cover and cook for about 30 min. You don’t want the yams to be mushy. Toss in some fresh basil and a little sea salt at the end and enjoy! 

In this pic I am also having some fresh prickly pair juice.

It’s coming! Can you feel it? 

I’m talking about something so big that it will change your beliefs. All that old programming and fear based conditioning is coming to an end. The road ahead is paved with only love, abundance, caring, appreciation, responsibility, respect, joy, laughter, freedom, gratitude, and you doing only what you love. There’s no turning back now. Go ahead, you will be just fine. Trust.

Tarantula Animal Messages

Hiking a small hill near Sacred Mountain, I came across a tarantula slowly making its way around. I stopped to say hi and it stopped and turned toward me as if to say hello, then sfter a short moment it turned and continued on its path. The message of tarantula is so perfectly symbolic of my life right now. Just yesterday I decided to stay put it the Verde Valley for a while until financial signs are clear to travel abroad. The decision feels good and tarantula came into my life to validate it. Still camping though and celebrating one month without electric! Thank you tarantula!

If Tarantula has come across your path…

You are being asked to be patient for the moment. All you are asking for and trying to create in your life is coming to fruition behind the scenes. You must step back and allow it all to take hold in a solid foundation. Moving too soon can create an instability that will undermine all of your hard work. trust that you will be given the information and knowledge you need for your next move when the time comes.

Tarantula can also be letting you know that positive changes are now taking hold in your life and that it is time to integrate the spiritual with the physical. Trust your intuition and continue to move forward.

Sacred Mountain Essential Oil from Young Living

I just discovered this! If you havent yet tried it, you must…

Sacred Mountain Essential Oil Provides the Strength and Protection of  Mother Nature…

Sacred Mountain Essential Oil is a spiritual oil blend that creates a feeling of security and protection. Use it for bring awareness to consciousness on a personal or global level.

Buy Sacred Mountain Essential Oil Here!

The conifer oils used in this blend have been used by the North American Indians for hundreds of years to harness the energy of the planet and bring protection. The oils helped them to recharge energetically at all levels. It is believed that is why animals like to take shelter or rest under these conifer trees.

This oil will bring empowerment, sacredness and connection to the energy of the earth. It is spiritually uplifting yet grounding for the body.

What is in Sacred Mountain Essential Oil? There are four therapeutic grade essential oils in Sacred Mountain. They are listed below along with a brief description of each oil.

  • Ylang Ylang Essential Oil (Cananga odorata) has a long history in skin and hair care products, particularly in Asia, where it is used to promote healthy luxuriant hair. It also restores confidence and equilibrium.
  • Cedarwood Essential Oil (Cedras atlantica) has an earthy aroma that gives you a sense of security. It is calming, purifying and grounding.
  • Balsam Fir Essential Oil (Abies balsamea) raditionally used for minor muscular discomfort after exercise, the warm aroma of balsam fir soothes and rejuvenates body and mind. Known for supporting respiratory function*. Grounding emotionally.
  • Spruce Essential Oil (Picea mariana) is grounding and releasing.

What are the Documented Uses for Sacred Mountain Essential Oil? Anger, aura, empowerment, frustration, grief and sorrow, jealousy, obsessiveness, personal change, prayer, protection, restlessness, sacredness, security, support, spacing out, spiritually uplifting, stress, trauma, and wholeness.

What is the Aromatic Affect on the Mind? This wonderful aroma is calming and grounding.

What is the Spiritual Influence? Sacred Mountain essential oil will help those who are afraid to hear what they need to hear or are afraid of speaking out. This usually happens because we are afraid of compromising our self or we do too often!

It also helps to connect with the mass consciousness of the planet. Use with Gathering for this purpose. First clear space and set up protection using Sacred Mountain, then follow with Gathering to connect with consciousness.

What Chakra is Affected? Opens the root and throat chakras.

  • Apply several drops (2-4) on ears, heart, neck, wrists or temples
  • Apply to chakras/vitaflex points
  • Directly inhale or
  • Diffuse

I found it at the Verde Community Collective!

Woman Arising Event November 10-12 2017 Sedona AZ

November 10-12 2017 Sedona, AZ

Take Advantage of our Special Fall Pricing $295.00 Until October 1st. $360. at the Door.


I am honored to be a guest speaker and ceremony leader at this event! -Rebekah Two Moons

Join us for Women Arising 2017 in beautiful Sedona, Arizona for a wonderful weekend of initiation into the deep, divine feminine.

Entering its fifth year this event is a powerful opportunity to connect with radiant, successful, and aware women who share the most profound insights, guidance, and sisterhood.

Those who have attended in the past recall the experience as transformational for the soul, the body and for life: “healing,” “uplifting,” “inspiring,” “beyond expectations,” and even, “the most amazing experience I’ve ever had.”

This dynamic and empowering tribal gathering for today’s modern women features some of the world’s most exciting female speakers each bringing gifts of unique guidance for tuning in with our sacred feminine.

Meet Our Speakers…

Women Arising is proud to present and exciting array of Speakers for our 2017 event. Our presenters come from all walks of life and various, differing knowledge bases. They join here together alongside our participants in unity to celebrate the divine feminine in all of us.


The Awakening of a New Generation of Wise Woman Elders

If women would love to build their lives and businesses in a creative and sustainable way, Diana is the expert. She is a thought leader when it comes to women’s sexuality and financial abundance. Diana has designed a support system for conscious women in business to stay anchored, fuelled up and highly productive, while they juggle the multiple demands in their lives.

She works globally with conscious women entrepreneurs. Her workshops and events open up a profound understanding for women about themselves to connect them with a power that is far greater than they ever expected.

Diana inspires women with her own rich tapestry of life, her love of beauty, nature, family and the freedom to express all of who she is.

Sandy Rueve, an alchemist of astrology and clay, helps her clients align with their life path, current intentions, and purpose with handmade, astrologically timed talismans. A Spirited Creator. Having studied astrology for nearly two decades, Sandy Rueve hand creates clay beads with precise astrological timing to take on the energies available. Sandy blends art, astrology, and alchemy to help her clients reach their desires thru mindfulness and talismans.

Avani Sukhadia is a student of life, mother, sister, yogini, and life-long Shakti Worshiper. Certified Ayurvedic Practitioner, Certified Holistic Health Practitioner and owner of Authentic Ayurveda of Sedona, specializing in Ayurvedic rejuvenation therapies and Pancha Karma cleansing.

Avani grew up living with traditional  Ayurvedic principles at home with her family.  She has been formally studying and practicing Holistic Medicine since 1998. She has trained with the most respected teachers/gurus in the field including Dr. Vasant Lad, Dr. Mahadavan, Vaidya Ramakant Mishra, Swami Sadashiva Tirtha, and Bharat Shukla.  Avani is a graduate of New York University, The School of Healing Arts, and the American School of Ayurveda.

She is eager to share with you the wisdom of integrating different Ayurvedic practices to connect deeply to your divine feminine.

Sherab “Shey” Khandro’s deepest wish is to nourish and inspire the hearts and minds of others through paintings, sculpture and philosophical reflections focused on art, spirituality and the experiences of modern life.  She invites you to come alive in your own journey through the power of mindfulness and intentionality, exploring the transformative power of universal Love and Compassion.

Born and raised in the United States, Sherab was ordained as a Buddhist nun in the Tibetan tradition for 15 years. Her art and philosophy for living express a blend of the East and the West. A modern woman and one of the early Western artists to receive formal training from Tibetan masters in exile, her art is naturally an expression of the ancient and the contemporary. In her paintings she uses the neo-impressionist style of pointillism, tiny dots of color creating rich and vibrant imagery. Each stroke of the brush holds a prayer of compassion, each dot offered as a jeweled universe, an aspiration to end suffering in the world.

Elizabeth Oakes, Ph.D., is a poet, spiritual writer, and former Shakespeare and Women’s Poetry Professor. Her first book of poems won the 2004 Pearl Poetry Prize, a national award based in California. She is also the author of four other poetry books, the most recent of which is In the Matrix of the Mothers,  A long-time feminist and veteran speaker on Shakespeare, women’s poetry, and women’s pre-history/history, she especially enjoys sharing her poetry and that of other women with female audiences. 

Her workshop will bring the energy of our long suppressed past alive through poetry, chant, and movement. In this interactive, experiential presentation, the hymns that Enheduanna, a high priestess, sung to the moon goddess Inanna, the most powerful deity in Sumeria 5,000 years ago, will resound again. We will also rescue Medusa from her image as a monster. We will welcome these women into our world as muses, mentors, and mothers.

Join Rebekah on a peaceful hike and adventure to a sacred place in Sedona. Here we will hold a Medicine Wheel Ceremony and opening prayer for releasing all that no longer serves us and gratitude for all that we have and that is to come. We call in the ancestors and the blessings of the four directions to assist us on our journey. We drum and sing the medicine songs that will assist you in releasing and healing. Rebekah Two Moons will guide you through a powerful ceremony, prayer and share teachings of the indigenous people that held this land so sacred.

As a Dancer she studied traditional dance and drum of Africa and the African Diaspora. She taught Afro-Brazilian Dance, Samba and dances of the African Diaspora at University of Hawaii Hilo from 2001-2015.

Sarah McLean is a contemporary meditation and mindfulness teacher who has been inspiring people to meditate for over 20 years. With kindness and humor, Sarah shares her secrets to creating a successful meditation practice and how the it can lead to increased self-compassion, clear communication, and a more peaceful life.

She is dedicated to doing what she can to create more peace on this planet, for every living being. She believes that when people learn how to meditate and practice every day, they are able to expand their awareness and cultivate their own personal peace. When each one of us is peaceful, it creates a more peaceful planet for everyone.  She has a 24 year teaching career, and her students come from all walks of life, including Olympic and professional athletes, rock stars, and presidents of Fortune 500 companies, along with moms and dads and even young children.

Sarah is the founder of the Meditation Teacher Academy at the McLean Meditation Institute as

well as a popular facilitator at retreats for the Chopra Center, Esalen Institute, 1440 Multiversity, The Art of Living Retreat Center, and many world-class destinations. She has been interviewed on national television, featured in a variety of award-winning movies, and her work has been touted in the New York Times, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, and Los Angeles Times.

Valerie “Sanjali” Irons is an artist, sound alchemist and kirtan wallah living in Sedona, AZ. She founded Bhakti Tribe Sedona in 2010, bringing kirtan and devotional music to the Red Rocks of Sedona. She also offers kirtan with her devotional music project “Sanjali Kirtan” and will soon be recording her first cd. As a sound healer, she is immersed in the world of sacred sound. She offers private sessions – “Soundwave Journeys” – using her Soundwave BedTM, as well as Shamanic Breathwork and group breathwork/sound healing journeys. She continues to paint and sculpt, as well as teach “Sacred Creativity” workshops. She is dedicated to divine healing through the arts. She is inspired by divine love and is deeply grateful.


Woman Arising will be held at Sedona Creative Life Center 333 Schnebly Hill Rd Sedona, AZ 86336