This coaching exercise is designed to help you see what you may need right now in your life. Sometimes we can get overwhelmed and lose track of what we need to do in the present moment. This tool will help you prioritize your life and get back on the right track. Sometimes we tend to “put the cart before the horse” and often miss important steps that we need to take in order to reach our desired outcome.
According to a study on human needs psychology, there are six essential human needs…
These basic needs are:
Certainty – Comfort, pleasure, avoidance of pain, and the feeling of safety and security.
Uncertainty and Variety – Challenges to our normal lives that act to exercise our emotional and physical range.
Significance – The need to feel special, important and wanted. The need to be respected, admired and accepted by others.
Love and Connection – The need for connection with other human beings. (It is important to both love and be loved.)
Growth – If we are not growing were dying. It is essential to think beyond yourself, beyond your fears and limitations, in order to grow, love, and understand. Remember also that the power of freedom is the power of growth and creation. Tap into that power.
Contribution – To be fulfilled we need to contribute to others. Contribution gives meaning to life.
This session is intended to clarify what needs are not being fulfilled and what may be blocking you from fulfilling those needs. Do you need to communicate more effectively, forgive yourself or others, remove fears of guilt, or to adjust your behavior to match what your needs are?
Preparation: Have a pen and paper ready to take notes.
One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.
Begin by asking yourself, what do you need right now?
Do you need a particular person to behave in a certain way?
What would it look like if you had it right now? Give yourself a moment to really feel this one.
What else do you need right now? Are you showing that to others?
How could you show others what you need right now?
Are you willing to start right now?
How could you take action?
What may be stopping you or blocking you?
Focus the session: What do you call your higher power? Center yourself and call on them to help you with this. Ask, what would they tell you right now if they were to give you their best advice. Listen closely.
If you could do that right now what would you gain?
Are you whole and complete in your life right now?
What would you need to be whole and complete right now?
Do you really understand what your needs are and are you willing to commit to taking baby steps to get closer to fulfilling your needs?
Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take? Write it in your journal.
When using this exercise with your client: Ask your client what action they would be willing to take to fulfill their needs.
Close the Session: Thank your client. Acknowledge them for being so open and willing to look at these areas of their life with you. Use the 1-10 scale. Schedule a follow-up session.